childhood friends are not always loyal. i had one a few years back and he was my best friend. he was literally the person i told everything and anything to. i told him my secrets (even though he would let one slip every once in a while) and i put all my trust in him. i thought he was going to be there forever for me. but there were disputes and we slowly drifted apart. you'd think that the transition from middle school to high school would make us stronger, but it only pulled us apart. there were misunderstandings and issues that couldn't be resolved. if they were ignored then, i knew they would come back to haunt me. i don't think that a childhood friend can be the most loyal. i think that just anyone who comes in your life at any time and you bond with could be the most loyal. when i look back on those years i had with him, i wouldn't go back to that. it would end one day or another, and i can't endure that suffering any longer.
but people change, and we must come around to accept that. i thought he was the only one who changed, but i'm sure i changed as well. so blame doesn't all fall on him-- i'll take some fault, but i think it affected me more than it affected him. it still makes me cry every now and then, but i think he has forgotten me. he has his group of friends that replace me easily. but i know that no one could replace the best friend he was. time to time i look at him and i wonder, "does he still think about me?" only god knows. but when i look into his eyes, he's not the same person as he was before, and i realize it's time to forgive and forget.
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p.s. i hate the way the book is spelled "wuthering heights" because we say it like "withering heights." lol.
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It's funny because I was going to write about this topic too, and I basically would have told the same story you did (more or less). I think it's pretty obvious that friendships end as people change, as your friend and mine did. But your right, it's not fair to put all the blame on them and I never really thought of it like that. It is definitely true though, because the ending of a friendship is never really all on one person.
ps: i love how you bold phrases. it's pretty intense.
it says your post is from 6:15 am which is really weird cause i posed mine around 6 am also. anyway, in order to "not mention this person," i will just say 'he'. i chose the same question from the survey as you did, and i agree completely with what shelby said. i know how hard everything was after you and that person, because the two of you were also my two best friends. even though both of you are still my best friends, everyone has changed. and i can say that i have gone through the exact same thing with another person. you go from talking all the time to just ignoring each other in the hallways, or not talking for 4 months straight. but again, people change, and i think it's up to us to find out if that change is for better or for worse.
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i definitely wrote about the same topics you did. i fully agree with your opinion of childhood friends. it's hard to let go of people you've known all your life though, it's even harder to watch someone change especially for the worst. but changing is part of growing up nevertheless, and we all grow up and live with it.
Jamie,
I agree with you. I think that the quality of your friends comes from things of more value than merely the amount of time you've spent with them. I believe that a certain amount of years doesn't guarantee loyalty in a friendship or relationship. I believe that relationships are deeper than that, and time is not the indicator of who will/will not stand by you. However, I think it is true that some friendships in your later life will be created out of interest, not out of pure desire for a friendship. But, in the childhood years, interest (money, fame, career) is really not relative, and therefore, childhood friendships are initially genuine most of the time. But, the initiative of a friendship doesn't determine the future of the friendship. Thanks Jamie.
I think that everyone can kind of relate to that kind of story. It happened to a lot of people (including me) in the transition to high school.
And I also disagree that longtime friends are the most loyal. Some of the people who I am friends with this year turned out to be more loyal than friends I had for a really really long time. And, same with you, the friendship just kind of dissolved. Great point - it made me think about this again (even though I had forgotten about it for a little while). :)
Alright J. OH I did not answer mostly false unlike you but I had a couple questions. If you answered false to do you believe in ghosts is there a reason behind that (religion, just or belief, etc). Also if you answered false to are classic novels important to read why don't you think they are important. Yes man of them may be terrible but I think that for cultural reasons one should understand and read them.
I wrote about how old friends are the most loyal and i completely agree with you. Childhood friends stick by your side when you need them the most and thy give you advice if you seem lost and depressed. Also, they give you someone to talk to if you're or you just want to talk to them about personal things.
I totally agree and I was also considering writing about this topic. I had a very close friend for a reallyyy long time who I used to be with allll the time. But as we got into middle school and especially high school we have become very different people and we don't really have much in common at all. We both went our separate ways and this showed me that no matter what you might think, outside of your family you never can know for sure what friends will always be around.
Chrissy-tata <333
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